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Homosexual soldier separated from husband after army bosses ignored their wedding

Published by on June 27th, 2020.


homosexual soldier has informed how he became torn other than his husband due to the fact america Army refused to recognize them as a married couple. Thomas West, 38, from Manchester, Vermont, has stated military bosses stopped him from residing together with his spouse, Jonathan, 37, and denied them both get admission to to military employees blessings such as free healthcare and a housing allowance.


Thomas served in the US Army as a Russian linguist. But not like his immediately colleagues whose spouses could stay with them in navy barracks, he was compelled to live as a single soldier and Jonathan become banned from the camp altogether. They have been kept aside for nearly a 12 months till the restrictive regulation which prohibited married same-sex couples from collecting federal benefits was located to be unconstitutional by way of the United States Supreme Court in June 2013.

Father-of-two, Jonathan, stated: ‘We gave them our marriage certificate however I changed into still dealt with like a unmarried soldier and made to stay faraway from Jonathan. All other soldiers, sailors or airmen had their own family moved so they may want to live collectively, and it’d all get paid for by the army.

Jonathan and Thomas West with Grace
Jonathan and Thomas followed their first child, Grace, in 2015 and became fathers for the first time. (Picture: Jonathan West/Metro.Co.Uk)
‘As a married guy I have to have received complete federal advantageshowever I was no longer identified as married.

‘It felt like our marriage did not depend or matter. Jonathan needed to pay to hire his personal flat out of doors of camp and I could no longer stay with him over night, at the same time as my colleagues had been able to live with their households in a house that changed into paid for.’

Jonathan added: ‘I felt horrible and at the start it did sincerely disillusioned me. I had to pay $1500 a month for a one mattress flat, in order that I should stay near him.

‘I wasn’t even allowed into the camp and it actually hit domestic while I’d go to meet Thomas on lunch, and he had to pop out of the camp gates to meet me whilst different other halves and husbands ought to go inside. We have been absolutely excluded.’

The West family
Jonathan and Thomas had been together for 15 years and have been married considering 2012. (Picture: Jonathan West/Metro.Co.Uk)
Jonathan and Thomas met on an online dating site in 2005 and after four years of dating, were given engaged in 2009. Thomas joined the Army in July 2012 and become stationed at Monterey, California, for education to grow to be a Russian linguist.

When Jonathan signed up, a regulation called the the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) changed into in place, which prohibited married same-sex couples from amassing federal advantages, which included things like a housing allowance and health care for married navy personnel and their direct family members.

The couple shelled out tens of lots of bucks on housing and health take care of Jonathan for almost a 12 monthstill the landmark second DOMA overruled in June 2013. Three months later, in September 2013, Jonathan and Thomas were sooner or later treated as equals and granted get admission to to full blessings.

Thomas, who become discharged from the Army in 2017, stated: ‘I turned into paid much less just because I become married to a man and it felt so wrong. It worked out OK in the end but it wasn’t exceptional to go via.

The West family.
The West family have come to be social media influencers with 24,000 fans on Instagram as LGBTQ+ equality advocates. (Picture: Jonathan West/Metro.Co.Uk)
‘Before I joined the Army I knew there might be a few degree of discrimination, however this left me stunned.’

After three years or marriage Whilst Thomas turned into still within the Army the couple became dad and mom for the first time in August 2015, to Grace and for a second time in 2016, to Charlotte, who’ve both been followed by the Wests.

‘We thought we had been ready but it became a big shock to the system at the beginning’, stated Jonathan.

‘Our purpose from day one became to deliver them as much as be socially aware and accepting of everyone, despite their background. We have been infatuated by way of them both because the day they arrived and they have completed our little family.’

The West own family
The couple post regular updates on existence as homosexual dads to their journey and way of life blog, Daddy & Pappa. (Picture: Jonathan West/Metro.Co.Uk)
Shortly after adopting the girls, who are now 4-years-antique, Jonathan and Thomas installation a way of life and tour weblog called Daddy & Pappa, with the primary goal of growing ‘acceptance through visibility’.

Their thought for the weblog and Instagram page become born out of the discrimination they faced on the arms of the Defense of Marriage Act, stated Jonathan.

Over the remaining five years the couple have posted normal updates on their life as homosexual dads inside the wish of growing public awareness and extra equality. In June remaining 12 months the couple also purchased an Airstream RV and feature travelled a ways and wide throughout America, posting everyday updates alongside the way.

The weblog has visible the West family come to be LGBTQ+ social media influencers with extra than 24,000 followers.

Jonathan pictured with Grace, left, and Charlotte, right, at a Pride march
Jonathan pictured with Grace, left, and Charlotte, right, at a homosexual satisfaction march. (Picture: Jonathan West/Metro.Co.Uk)
Jonathan stated: ‘We have traveled to loads of very conservative regions and feature positioned our own family at risk, however when we have traveled we’ve met human beings and shared our story.

‘We notion we are able to make a difference and if we’ve had an impact on only a few human beings then it has been well worth it. What came about to us inspired us to want to attempt to alternate the perspectives of some people.

‘We have seen breakthroughs in popularity and being homosexual doesn’t change who we’re as human beings.’

Jonathan and Thomas are also due to emerge as new dads for a third time having began the adoption procedure for one-month-old Eleanor, who turned into put up for adoption at birth.




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